LIFE: Living In Families Effectively

The Pillars of LIFE Seminars

Mastering Parenting, Adult Relationships, and Personal Development: Understanding the parent-child connection as it relates to boundaries, effective communication, understanding our children's behaviour and bringing practical insight to discipline.

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Boundaries and Family Systems

Healthy boundaries must be learned in childhood and carried forward into our adult relationships. Blind spots can interfere with effective discipline and relationship issues. We identify those invisible lines regarding responsibility, closeness and distance, and emotional safety and development. How do you stay in your own lane while providing support and closeness?

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With effective communication, you foster cooperation, emotional safety, and clarity. Language is powerful and words matter. We take an in-depth look at the tools for listening, speaking with non-violence, and resolving conflict and issues.  

For couples, we want to teach you skills but also figure out what part of you can't access those skills. How do you act when you are dysregulated? What part of your past is present and interfering? Adults teach children how to communicate by example.

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Understanding Behaviour

Understand your child's unique temperament, challenging behaviours, and correct your lens for a better, more peaceful parenting experience. Too often parents don't understand why their children act as they do so they think there is something wrong with their child, or their parenting. As a couple, disagreements emerge around approaches which then throws anxiety into the family system. Then, the child's behaviour acts out the anxiety and things get worse. Don't let this happen in your family.

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Effective Discipline Means to Teach

Adopt effective disciplinary strategies, maintaining respect and love while instilling important life values. Parents inadvertently derail their child's ability to step up and be accountable by nagging, overindulging, over-control, or getting into power struggles when they could let learning happen instead. We take parents through the four levels of responsibility giving. It's a game changer.

Live Courses

LIFE Seminars runs regular, in-person and Zoom-based courses to help people improve their relationships

In-Person - October 15th/24 to November 19th/24 - Six Weeks: Tuesday Evenings - Oak Bay Studio

Sidestepping the Power Struggle

This popular course applies to children of all ages from tots to teens. Each week is packed with information and supported by printed material and audio handouts. We start off by exploring where challenging behaviours come from and outline individual differences in temperament. Once parents understand why their children behave the way they do, they are then offered strategies for effective discipline.

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Six Weeks: Wednesday Evenings - Oct. 30th to Dec. 6th/24 at my studio in Oak Bay

Mad Love: A Course for Couples in a Committed Relationship

A course for couples of any kind wanting to nurture their relationship. This course is limited in seating so if you are able to commit to these dates and want to join the course, sign up now.

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Zoom: Sidestepping the Power Struggle

This course turns things around for parents very quickly. Many parents struggle to understand their kid’s behaviour and feel like they are either failing as a parent or become focused on the idea that their is something wrong with their child. Find peace, answers and strategies in this dynamic course.

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Free resources and other courses

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About Allison Rees

Dr. Allison Rees has been teaching LIFE Seminars courses, counselling families, and training other professionals since 1993. She co-hosted a weekly radio show for twelve years, covering the LIFE material and interviewing many other educators in her field.

She is the co-author of two parenting books and countless audio books on parenting, intimate relationships, running and managing educational groups and personal development. She is the trusted voice of parenting in Victoria, B.C.

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